Things feel good
Notice what you appreciate and what helps you feel close.
FOR THE RELATIONSHIPS THAT MATTER
A fresh perspective
on someone familiar.
We make time for feedback at work.
Our closest relationships deserve that care, too.
Eight thoughtful questions. Two perspectives. A chance to stay connected, rediscover each other, or talk before small things grow.
Start a check-inA free, self-guided check-in tool. Not therapy, counseling, or a professional service.
Free to use5 minutes eachNo account
A MOMENT BETWEEN US 01 / LISTENING
Two perspectives.
More room to understand.
More room to understand.
My intention
“I give advice
because I care.”
Your experience
“Sometimes I just
want you to listen.”
A SMALL PLACE TO BEGIN
“Would you like ideas,
or would listening help?”
Illustrative example
FOR EVERYDAY CONNECTION
A check-in for where you are.
Taking time to understand each other is a thoughtful step. There’s no perfect moment or required outcome.
A little out of sync
Make space for a fresh conversation when routines feel stale or you’ve been passing each other by.
Something feels harder
Explore small differences before they grow, if sharing feels comfortable for both of you.
PARTNERS, FAMILY, AND FRIENDS
Who’s on your mind?
You’ll reflect first.
Nothing is sent until you choose to share.
A CHECK-IN, NOT HOMEWORK
A few everyday moments.
Room for both of you.
Whether things feel close, complicated, or somewhere in between, you can explore what everyday moments feel like.
- 01
Start with your perspective.
Answer eight questions about how you think the other person experiences you.
Listening. Appreciation. Time. Support. - 02
Make an invitation.
Enter both emails and submit. We send their private invitation. They answer the same questions from their experience, without seeing your answers first.
They choose whether to take part. - 03
Explore together, if you choose.
Once they finish, we email both of you the same report. See where your perspectives meet and differ, then decide what feels useful.
Choose one small thing to try. Or stop there.
WHY BETTER BETWEEN US EXISTS
The relationships that matter deserve a check-in, too.
Inspired by feedback at work. Made for connection in everyday life.
At work, tools like 360 feedback help us understand how others experience us. At home, with family, partners, and friends, we often leave that understanding to guesswork.
Better Between Us brings that simple idea into everyday life: make space to ask, listen, and learn from each other.
You don’t need a problem to begin. A check-in can help you notice what feels good, reconnect when things feel routine, or understand something that’s been hard to say.
No performance review. No grade. Just a chance to understand the people who matter to you, and how you show up for them.
You choose your pace. Either person can skip a question, take a pause, or decide not to participate.
Understand how privacy worksBEFORE YOU BEGIN
A few things
you might wonder.
Will they see what I wrote?
Yes. After both sides submit, both people can see the ratings and comments in the shared report. This isn’t anonymous. You can review or edit your answers before submitting.
What if the feedback is hard to hear?
Different perspectives can bring up feelings. You can pause, leave the page, or return another time. If you both want to talk, a specific example may help. Neither person needs to prove their experience or settle a disagreement here.
Who can start a check-in?
Either partner, a parent or child (including an adult child), a sibling, or a friend can begin. The person starting asks about their own actions; the other person shares how those actions feel. There are no assumed genders, family roles, or right answers. Participants must be 13 or older; teens need parent or guardian permission. Teens should have space to answer freely, without being watched or coached, and can always decline.
Do we have to keep checking in?
No. You can use this once and leave it there. If you both want another check-in later, you can create one. An optional calendar reminder only reminds you; it never contacts the other person.
Is this therapy or a professional service?
No. Better Between Us is a free, self-guided reflection tool. It does not provide therapy, counseling, mediation, clinical assessment, or professional advice. No professional reviews your answers. It does not diagnose, measure relationship health, or promise an outcome.
What if sharing doesn’t feel safe or comfortable?
You do not need to take part or explain why. Answers are shared with the other person after both submit. If you’re worried about pressure or how someone might react, you can leave without submitting. This tool cannot make a conversation safe.
THERE’S NO PERFECT WAY TO BEGIN.
A small step, when you’re ready.
Choose someoneYou choose whether, when, and how much to share.