FOR THE RELATIONSHIPS THAT MATTER

A fresh perspective
on someone familiar.

We make time for feedback at work. Our closest relationships deserve that care, too.

Answer eight questions about how you show up. We’ll invite someone you care about to share their perspective. Once they finish, we email you both a report with ideas for a useful conversation.

Start a check-in
  • 8 questions
  • About 5 minutes each
  • Free
  • No account

A self-guided tool, not therapy. Taking part is always a choice.

FOR EVERYDAY CONNECTION

A check-in for where you are.

You don’t need a problem to begin. There’s room for you wherever things stand.

Things feel good

Notice what you appreciate and what helps you feel close.

A little out of sync

Make space for a fresh conversation when routines feel stale or you’ve been passing each other by.

Something feels harder

Explore small differences before they grow, if sharing feels comfortable for both of you.

PARTNERS, FAMILY, AND FRIENDS

Who’s on your mind?

You’ll reflect first.
Nothing is sent until you choose to share.

A CHECK-IN, NOT HOMEWORK

A few everyday moments.
Room for both of you.

You answer separately. You each receive the same report. What happens next is up to you.

  1. 01

    Start with your perspective.

    Answer eight questions about how you think the other person experiences you.

    Listening. Appreciation. Time. Support.
  2. 02

    Make an invitation.

    Enter both emails and submit. We send their private invitation. They answer the same questions from their experience, without seeing your answers first.

    They choose whether to take part.
  3. 03

    Explore together, if you choose.

    Once they finish, we email both of you the same report. See where your perspectives meet and differ, then decide what feels useful.

    Choose one small thing to try. Or stop there.

WHY BETTER BETWEEN US EXISTS

The relationships that matter deserve a check-in, too.

Inspired by feedback at work. Made for connection in everyday life.

At work, 360 feedback helps us understand how others experience us. Better Between Us brings that curiosity to partners, family, and friends.

A chance to ask, listen, and learn. No grade, and no perfect answer.

You choose your pace. Either person can skip a question or decide not to take part.

Understand how sharing works

BEFORE YOU BEGIN

A few things
you might wonder.

Will they see what I wrote?

Yes. After both sides submit, both people can see the ratings and comments in the shared report. This isn’t anonymous. You can review or edit your answers before submitting.

What if the feedback is hard to hear?

Different perspectives can bring up feelings. You can pause, leave the page, or return another time. If you both want to talk, a specific example may help. Neither person needs to prove their experience or settle a disagreement here.

Who can start a check-in?

Either partner, a parent or child (including an adult child), a sibling, or a friend can begin. The person starting asks about their own actions; the other person shares how those actions feel. There are no assumed genders, family roles, or right answers. Participants must be 13 or older; teens need parent or guardian permission. Teens should have space to answer freely, without being watched or coached, and can always decline.

Do we have to keep checking in?

No. You can use this once and leave it there. If you both want another check-in later, you can create one. An optional calendar reminder only reminds you; it never contacts the other person.

Is this therapy or a professional service?

No. Better Between Us is a free, self-guided reflection tool. It does not provide therapy, counseling, mediation, clinical assessment, or professional advice. No professional reviews your answers. It does not diagnose, measure relationship health, or promise an outcome.

What if sharing doesn’t feel safe or comfortable?

You do not need to take part or explain why. Answers are shared with the other person after both submit. If you’re worried about pressure or how someone might react, you can leave without submitting. This tool cannot make a conversation safe.

THERE’S NO PERFECT WAY TO BEGIN.

A small step, when you’re ready.

Choose someone

You choose whether, when, and how much to share.

A CLEAR WORD ABOUT PRIVACY

Private links.
Shared understanding.

Your answers aren’t public, but they aren’t anonymous. Once both people submit, both can see the ratings and comments. Skipped questions have no rating or comment.

Who can open a check-in?

Anyone with an invitation link can respond and, after completion, view the report. Anyone with the results link can view it after both sides finish. Links act as access keys. Don’t forward them to others.

What is stored, and where?

Submitted names or nicknames, relationship category, parent-child role and teen/adult context when applicable, ratings, and comments are stored on Netlify. There is no account or password, and this tool does not use end-to-end encryption. For new check-ins, both email addresses and private links are stored separately for invitation and report delivery through AgentMail, for up to 90 days. Emails contain links, never ratings or comments. This does not subscribe you to marketing. If you separately opt in and confirm, we keep your email and consent record in a newsletter list until you unsubscribe; it contains no relationship answers. New check-ins expire after 90 days; earlier check-ins expire December 13, 2026. Either person can delete the shared check-in from their private page. See our privacy notice for details.

What if I close the page?

Unsubmitted answers stay in this page’s memory and are lost when you leave or reload. Your small-step note is also not saved. After submitting, your private report link appears in the address bar. You can save it as a file, use your device’s share menu, and new check-ins automatically include email delivery.

A free, self-guided tool. Not therapy, counseling, mediation, or a professional service. No professional reviews your answers.